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Healthy Relationships Yields a Healthy Family

I was having coffee with an associate of mine this morning when he began telling me about how is his wife’s birthday and their anniversary falls around the same time and just how much he tries to go out of his way during this time of the year to make her happy.  I've known the guy for a while now and I couldn’t help but realize that he does love his family, but he doesn’t really show that the rest of the year.

 I want to share a thought with you today and hope that you take it with you from now on because is an obvious little thing that be easily overlooked or done to have an amazing long relationship....

Never, ever go a day without embracing the love you have for your husband or wife. 

Guys, be liberal with sharing your compliments and make telling your wife just how beautiful she is an every morning event and telling her how lucky you are to have her and for Gods sakes stop comparing her to your neighbors wife because she is, and if not already should be, the most beautiful woman for you because she is your wife and she has made a commitment to be there for you and embrace your faults as well as your strengths while she could easily give another man the opportunity to truly appreciate her. You knew when you were dating that her cooking wasn’t her thing, that passion for money and business was not in her but in you, her waist was probably smaller then but her heart and love for you have grown bigger than her waist ever could. She has provided you with a family and  the opportunity to prove yourself a man because being a male does not make you a man just as much as having a child does not make you a father, you must do what makes your wife proud and your family honorable and happy. 

Women, embrace the faults that your husbands have tell them how proud you are – of anything- because underneath that rugged exterior we all crave approval from the one we have chosen to spend our lives with – everything we do is for women – so let us know what you love about us and what makes you proud of your husband even if they are seemingly little things like staying employed for 5 years, going to church on Sundays instead of watching the football game, washing dishes, trying for that management job even if he doesn't get it, being nice your family. Is easy to see his faults, you might say well I could praise if he was less of this and more of that but when you were dating you knew him and loved him regardless of his many faults, don’t fall out of love by focusing on the little bad things. 

A good way to heal your home is by praising each other every day, yesterday’s “I love you” is not good enough for today – repeat it daily, tell each other how much love you have for one another on a regular basis because these spoken words are the glue that keep relationships together during  shaky times. We always see families falling apart because things get too comfortable and the parents only express their love one day of the year with a cheap mass produced card and some flowers but ignore the reasons of the relationship the rest of the year.

If you have children this is very important, fathers should know that your daughter will learn the value of true family love and relationship by seeing how you are with mom, and your degree of attention to her actions and life if you fail her she will spend the rest of her life seeking that attention and love from many men without really knowing how to identify it but the love she is really looking for is that from her dad. If you have a son, know that he will grow up to be just like you in many ways and one of those way is his behavior towards women, your son will treat your wife when he is an adult the way you treat her now and his own wife will get the same treatment as you show your own wife and his mother. Moms, please treat your husband the way you wish your son to be treated, praise them and let them know each day that they are a gift in your life. A family is a powerful organism that creates innovation, disruption, communities or chaos and violence, learn to speak your emotions and complements because with complements and understanding for one another your family will only rise and continue to rise to great success and  long lasting legacy.

Once you have a family everything you do is deeply intertwined – So learn to walk together and hold each other up because when you put each other down you really are putting yourself down and spoiling your own opportunities.

If you are a professional or hustler, don’t be the best athlete, richest business person, famous, have the most friends, best shape, best job at the expense of your family, spend time with them and make them a priority because only when you learn to do that will your real greatest success in life become a reality. #unthink

-Humberto Valle

#Unthink Me